The best way to answer this question is to consider a few examples where the data is much clearer:
- 2 Sam 24:1 vs 1 Chron 21:1 – Who tempted King David to have a census? God (as per 2 Sam 24:1) or Satan (as per 1 Chron 21:1)? Both are correct because to the Hebrew mind, God is omniscient and omnipotent and thus events only occur if He allows. James 1:13 explicitly states that God tempts no one.
- Job 2:3 - God says that Satan "incited" God to ruin Job, even though it was Satan that was the direct cause of Job's ruin.
- 1 Sam 16:14, 16, 18:10, 19:9 – God sent an evil (literally, unclean) spirit on Saul? God does not have an evil spirit to send! Again, the omnipotent God is deemed responsible for that which He does not prevent.
- Judges 9:23 has an identical idea of an evil spirit from God.
- 1 Kings 2:22, 23, 2 Chron 18:21, 22 all have a “lying spirit” from the LORD.
- In Eze 14:9 says, “I the LORD have enticed/deceived that prophet”; whereas James 1:13 says that God does not tempt anyone.
Thus, God is often thought of as the ultimate cause of all things, even though it is Satan who is the direct cause of evil. We see this mind-set in lam 3:38:
Do not both adversity and good come from the mouth of the Most High?
The key to understanding this tricky question about who is to love God (or not) is to look at the alternatives. Either:
- A: God decides who loves Him and this we have no choice; thus those destined to love God must love Him and those destined not to love God are condemned to die eternally. This was the position of Calvin and the "5-point" Calvinists since
- B: We have a choice about whether respond to God's invitation to love Him. This was the position of James Arminius and his followers since.
In his 1537 Instruction in Faith, John Calvin says:
“For, the seed of the word of God takes root and brings forth fruit
only in those whom the Lord, by his eternal election, has predestined
to be children and heirs of the heavenly kingdom. To all the others
(who by the same counsel of God are rejected before the foundation of
the world) the clear and evident preaching of truth can be nothing but
an odour of death unto death.”
However, the whole point, axiomatically, about love is that it cannot be commanded nor contrived. Love is either by choice and genuine, or if it is forced is not love at all!
A direct consequence of Calvinism is "Limited Atonement" meaning that God only died for the sins of those He decided to save before people were even born. This is at odds with the Bible facts - see the appendix below - Jesus died for ALL sins and ALL people.
Thus, I agree with the assertion of the OP that God, because of our persistent and poor choices, sometimes allows the consequences of our choices to reap the havoc that come with the, That God, God, "gives us over" to the consequences of our sins,.
Note the part of the story about Pharoah that is often NOT quoted: Ex 9:12, 10:1, 20, 27, 11:10, 14:8 – God causes Pharaoh to harden his heart??? Clearly not! Compare Ex 8:15, 32, 9:34 where Pharaoh hardens his own heart. The same is tue in Rom 1:24, 26 where God allows the consequences of bad choice to work their degrading effects.
This is often expressed literally in places where God allows sin and evil to reap its own consequences and cause its own downfall.
- Job 5:13 - He catches the wise in their own craftiness, and the schemes of the wily are brought to a quick end.
- Ps 5:10 - Declare them guilty, O God; let them fall by their own devices. Drive them out for their many transgressions, for they have rebelled against You.
- Ps 9:16 - The LORD is known by the justice He brings; the wicked are ensnared by the work of their hands.
- Ps 69:22 - Let their own table before them become a snare; and when they are at peace, let it become a trap.
- Ps 141:10 - Let the wicked fall into their own nets, while I pass by in safety.
- Prov 11:6 - The righteousness of the upright delivers them, but the faithless are trapped by their own desires.
- Prov 12:13 - An evil man is trapped by his rebellious speech, but a righteous man escapes from trouble.
- Prov 28:10 - He who leads the upright along the path of evil will fall into his own pit, but the blameless will inherit what is good.
- Hos 11:6 - Job 5:13 - He catches the wise in their own craftiness, and the schemes of the wily are brought to a quick end.
APPENDIX - Christ Died for ALL
- John 1:29, “Behold the Lamb of God who takes away the sin of the world.”
- John 3:16, “God so loved the world that He gave …”
- John 12:32, “I [Jesus] … will draw all people to myself.”
- John 12:47, “… for I did not come to judge the world but to save the world.”
- Acts 17:30, “God … commands all people everywhere to repent.”
- Rom 3:23, 24, “… for all have sinned … and all are freely forgiven...”
- Rom 5:8, 10, “… while we were still sinners, Christ died for us. … if, while were God’s enemies, we were reconciled to him by the death of His Son, …”
- Rom 5:15, “But the free gift is not like the offense. For if by the one man’s [Adam’s] offense many died, much more the grace of God and the gift by the grace of the one Man, Jesus Christ, abounded to the many.” [Note the same word, “many” applies to all people.]
- Rom 5:18, “Therefore, as through one man’s offense judgment came to all people, resulting in condemnation, even so through one Man’s righteous act the free gift came to all people, resulting in justification of life.”
- Rom 11:32, “For God has imprisoned everyone in disobedience so that He may show mercy to all.”
- 2 Cor 5:14, “…we are convinced that one died for all, and therefore all died.”
- 2 Cor 5:18, 19, “…God was reconciling the world to Himself in Christ …”
- 1 Tim 2:3, 4, “For this is good and acceptable in the sight of God our Saviour, who desires all men to be saved and to come to the knowledge of the truth.”
- 1 Tim 2:6, “[Jesus Christ] gave Himself as a ransom for all people.”
- Titus 2:11, “For the grace of God appeared bringing salvation to all people.”
- Heb 2:9, “But we see Jesus, who was made a little lower than the angels, now crowned with glory and honour because he suffered death, so that by the grace of God he might taste death for everyone.”
- 2 Peter 3:9, “The Lord is not slow in keeping his promise, as some understand slowness. He is patient with you, not wanting anyone to perish, but everyone to come to repentance.”
- 1 John 2:2, “He Himself [Jesus] is the propitiation for our sins, and not for ours [Christians to whom John writes] only but also for the whole world.”
- Isa 53:6, “We all like sheep have gone astray … and the LORD has laid on him the iniquity of us all.”