For a while, I've been trying to find out if the Hebrew practice of Negiah (no physical affection with a non-relative of the opposite sex until you're married to them) was practiced in Bible times, which led me to wonder if some of the physical affection referenced in the Song of Songs happens before the bride and groom are married.

First, is the book chronological? If so, when does the wedding take place? Thanks!

  • To avoid this question being closed, it will be necessary to ask about a specific passage. However, let me suggest that the actual act of copulation occurs in the last verse of ch and the first verse of ch 5.
    – Dottard
    Jul 28 '21 at 2:39
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    @Dottard - On reflection, I'd say the text reference is probably specific enough and appropriate for this particular question, especially considering that Song of Songs is not an expansive text. This is near the boundaries of what we would traditionally term off-topic, but in essence it's a fairly specific exegetical question about a relatively focused text, in keeping with both the on-topic and off-topic guidance available in the Help Center.
    – Steve Taylor
    Jul 28 '21 at 8:55
  • Regardless of where you put the marriage in SS, the song opens with very steamy passage about kissing and being "weak" with love (= passion! SS 2:6, 7)
    – Dottard
    Jul 28 '21 at 10:13
  • @Dottard This book-wide question is broader than I usually go in this forum, true. However, I have narrowed the scope to a small book of the Bible. I could ask about specific verses (especially 1:2; 2:6), but that's different enough to be a separate question. (I'll probably start another question about 2:6; assuming it's before they're married, it'd be good to know whether the proper rendering is a statement of fact [e.g., KJV] or merely a wish [e.g., CJB]. However, the first question is the one for now, as knowing when the wedding takes place is critical to knowing what's before marriage.)
    – The Editor
    Jul 28 '21 at 17:14

New International Version Song of Solomon 3:

10c Daughters of Jerusalem, 11come out,
and look, you daughters of Zion.
Look a on King Solomon wearing a crown,
the crown with which his mother crowned him
on the day of his wedding,
the day his heart rejoiced.

This is the beginning of the wedding celebration.

Song of Solomon 5:


1 I have come into my garden, my sister, my bride;
I have gathered my myrrh with my spice.
I have eaten my honeycomb and my honey;
I have drunk my wine and my milk.


Eat, friends, and drink;
drink your fill of love.

This is where the physical consummation ends.

  • So you'd put the wedding through the consummation at Chapters 3-5. Thanks for the input!
    – The Editor
    Jul 28 '21 at 17:17
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    Yes, the wedding ends at 5:1. But I'm open to other opinions.
    – Tony Chan
    Jul 28 '21 at 17:22

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