And the third day there was a marriage in Cana of Galilee; and the mother of Jesus was there
It seems to me that "the mother of Jesus" is never explicitly named, but always listed as his posession (his mother, the mother of jesus, etc). But in John 3, Jesus says that he is born of water and Spirit. Is the spirit identical to his mother throughout the gospel of John?
If we don't understand "his mother" as "the spirit" are we making the same mistake that Nicodemus was mocked for when he thought that the rebirth was an actual physical rebirth from a womb and he ended up with the absurd notion of crawling back into the womb?
If we say that this is Mary, Joseph's wife, aren't we missing Jesus' teachings about how he is born of the Spirit?