In the NIV translation of the Bible, under the heading "The Cost of Following Jesus," a disciple who wants to follow Jesus says,

... “Lord, first let me go and bury my father.” But Jesus told him, “Follow me, and let the dead bury their own dead” (Matthew 8:21-22).

What did Jesus mean when he said this?

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    You may also want to check out the corresponding question and answers on C.SE, which may be of interest to you.
    – Dan
    Commented Sep 13, 2013 at 20:44
  • @Dan,i checked out the corresponding Q+A on C.SE (i was unaware of the question being there) and considering the answers that have been given,i would choose option 3 of your answer even after considering your footnote,(spiritually Dead) which the Greek text does not contain.Also rhetorician share's the same view,(in his own words)"The dead whom Jesus said should bury the dead probably were the spiritual dead." Jesus was not spiritually dead as he was born without Sin, so the second death (Natural death),had no power over him,in the same way it has no power over the born again.
    – Bagpipes
    Commented Sep 14, 2013 at 11:27
  • that's the beauty of the SE network, you are free to vote for and accept any answer you'd like. It's a purely postmodern relativist environment :)
    – Dan
    Commented Sep 14, 2013 at 19:25
  • Can I suggest you vote for the accepted answer as well? I know I voted for it and there is only one vote ;) Commented Sep 15, 2013 at 20:28
  • @user2572 also to be sure you haven't misconstrued/misunderstood my answer, while I don't believe option 3 is a good argument on its own merits, I think it is a very plausible argument when combined with option 1 (which seems to be the approach rhetorician took). I've clarified my answer slightly to make this apparent (you can combine option 1 with option 3 or 4 which would strengthen either argument).
    – Dan
    Commented Sep 16, 2013 at 13:14

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In effect, Jesus is likely saying to the man whom Matthew called a "disciple":

"Let the spiritually dead bury the physically dead."

As for the death of the disciple's father, there are at least two possibilities:

  1. The disciple's father had already died, and the son was waiting the customary year or so to re-bury his father's bones in an ossuary (a smallish casket for bones only). In this case, Jesus was saying his call to discipleship must have priority over even legitimate and customary responsibilities of a son to his father. The spiritually dead could re-bury his dead father's bones; in the meantime, however, the son could be about his heavenly Father's business, just as Jesus was.

    Furthermore, Jesus made it clear in Matthew 10:37, for example, "He who loves father or mother more than me is not worthy of Me." Jesus was not encouraging His disciples to disrespect their parents; rather, He was making it clear that their love for God had to trump all lesser loves, even the love of parents.

  2. The disciple's father had not yet died (and presumably was neither sick nor on his last legs). In this case, perhaps the disciple's request for permission to bury his father was in reality a "stall tactic" which Jesus would have detected right away; hence the reason for Jesus' seemingly harsh words. Then too, perhaps the disciple was reluctant to leave his home and engage in itinerant ministry until his father died and he had claimed the portion of the inheritance that was rightly his.

Notice that Jesus' call to the disciple was to

"go and proclaim the kingdom of God everywhere" (Lk 9:60).

The command was clear. The disciple was at a crossroads, and he needed to make a decision. He needed to ask himself, "Which is more important, burying my father or preaching the kingdom of God?"

If he had obeyed Jesus' call to preach, and a year or two later his father died, I'm sure Jesus would have given the disciple a "leave of absence" to tend to family business. Evidently, however, the man was reluctant to "lay it all on the line." Though the scriptures do not tell us, perhaps he actually quit being one of Jesus' disciples, as would others who were offended by a "difficult statement" of Jesus (see Jn 6:60 and 66).

Here is my paraphrase of Jesus' words to this disciple:

"If you are really sincere about coming under my lordship, then you must be willing to relinquish your old life and re-align your priorities in keeping with my terms of discipleship, not yours. Those who are spiritually dead can bury your father. I'm calling you to proclaim a life-giving message to people who have yet to hear it."

The man's new, top priority, was to proclaim the kingdom of God everywhere.

I suspect the man was really saying to Jesus,

"Lord, I'm not quite ready simply to drop what I'm doing and engage in itinerant ministry. Permit me first to bury my father."

Notice the man's use of the words me first. That's not how obedience to the Lord expresses itself: me first! On the contrary, we are to seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be ours as well" (Ma 6:33, my emphasis).

God's will for this disciple was for him to become a preacher of the kingdom of God. Yes, the demands of discipleship require sacrifice, but how else will the multitudes hear the proclamation if preachers don't go to the multitudes?

As Jesus said elsewhere: "The fields [i.e., the spiritually hungry multitudes] are ripe for harvesting, but there are too few harvesters [i.e., preachers]. Pray to the Lord of the harvest that He will send harvesters into the fields" (Mt 9:37; Lk 10:2; Jn 4:35).

Jesus' challenge to this disciple is just as valid to us today. In conclusion,

"The dead whom Jesus said should bury the dead probably were the spiritually dead who did not believe in Jesus. The mission of believers was more important than even discharging customary family obligations when these conflicted with discipleship responsibilities. It is hard to imagine how Jesus could have set forth the importance of immediate and wholehearted participation in God’s program more forcefully" (Constable's notes on Luke 9:59,60 in the NET Bible, at bible.org).

  • @ rhetorician,Great Answer.You can read my comment to @Dan if you wish.
    – Bagpipes
    Commented Sep 14, 2013 at 18:29
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    Keep in mind your initial translation completely ignores the reflexive possessive pronoun that is in the Greek texts ("their own dead").
    – Dan
    Commented Sep 17, 2013 at 20:14

As the NET translators point out:

There are several options for the meaning of Jesus’ reply Leave the dead to bury their own dead:

  1. Recent research suggests that burial customs in the vicinity of Jerusalem from about 20 B.C. to A.D. 70 involved a reinterment of the bones a year after the initial burial, once the flesh had rotted away. At that point the son would have placed his father’s bones in a special box known as an ossuary to be set into the wall of the tomb. Thus Jesus could well be rebuking the man for wanting to wait around for as much as a year before making a commitment to follow him. In 1st century Jewish culture, to have followed Jesus rather than burying one’s father would have seriously dishonored one’s father (cf. Tobit 4:3-4).
  2. The remark is an idiom (possibly a proverbial saying) that means, “The matter in question is not the real issue,” in which case Jesus was making a wordplay on the wording of the man’s (literal) request (see L&N 33.137).
  3. This remark could be a figurative reference to various kinds of people, meaning, “Let the spiritually dead bury the dead.”
  4. It could also be literal and designed to shock the hearer by the surprise of the contrast. Whichever option is preferred, it is clear that the most important priority is to follow Jesus.

I will explore these four options in a little more depth (and some sub-options as well as alternate perspectives). I believe that some overlap occurs in these perspectives and thus someone could believe that more than one option is explanatory simultaneously.

It should also be borne in mind that this occurs in the larger context of Jesus challenging the concept and identity of family and allegiance to national ties vs. the kingdom of God. N.T. Wright elaborates extensively on this in Jesus and the Victory of God (1996), saying,

"...the only explanation for Jesus' astonishing command is that he envisaged loyalty to himself and his kingdom-movement as creating an alternative family (p. 401)."

I will not elaborate further on this position as it moves beyond the text into the realm of doctrinal application, but it should be noted as a likely backdrop for Matthew's record of this encounter with the disciple.

Option 1: Rejection of Secondary Burial Practices

In first-century Jewish Palestine, the son would commonly bury his father on the day of his passing. The family would then mourn for one week (a practice referred to as 'sitting shivah'). After the flesh had decayed from the bones (approximately one year later), the son would stop mourning and place the father's bones in an ossuary (this was sometimes called a "second burial" or "ossilegium"). Keep in mind that families had shared tombs for the entire family during this time period (Meyers, Eric M. "Jewish Ossuraries: Reburial and Rebirth: Secondary Burials in Their Ancient Near Eastern Setting," Biblica et Orientalia. Rome: Biblical Institute Press, 1971).

The Jewish Virtual Library refers to this practice of using ossuaries for secondary interment:

Small stone chests, used for the secondary interment of human bones, were extremely popular among the Jewish population during the Second Temple period, i.e., between c. 40 B.C.E. and 135 C.E.. Ossuaries found by Hachlili at Jericho are dated to a more restricted time period: 10–68 C.E. They are mainly known from tombs in the vicinity of Jerusalem, but examples are known from Galilee (e.g., Nazareth), the Shephelah (e.g., Modi'in), and the lower Jordan River region (e.g., Jericho). A typical ossuary had a length of about 2.5 ft., so that it might accommodate the long bone of an adult leg, which is the longest bone in a human body. The ossuaries taper slightly toward the bottom; some stand on four low legs; they are made of soft limestone with flat or vaulted lids. Many contain scratched inscriptions on their sides in cursive Hebrew, Aramaic, or Greek, or in two languages (a few inscriptions were made with charcoal).

Jesus may have merely been opposing this practice that would have required an additional year of mourning and family obligation after the first burial. This option takes into account both internal and external evidence (the disciple does not make an excuse to not follow Jesus, but rather asks for time before doing so; and this makes sense in light of the above-mentioned cultural practices). There are a variety of reasons why he may have opposed the practice, one of which deserves special mention.

Jesus May Have Opposed Purification Beliefs Associated with Ossilegium

This is more of a speculative subset of option one which hypothesizes beyond the option as presented by the NET translators. Associated with the practice of ossilegium ("second burial") in first-century Judaism was the concept that the practice played some role in the purification of the deceased party's soul.

Ossilegium was an important family event and a religious act. The Jews believed in life after death and resurrection. The decomposition of the flesh thus purified the deceased’s soul, a necessity for resurrection (University of Missouri, Introduction to exhibit "Atonement for the Afterlife: The Jewish Practice of Ossilegium," Museum of Art and Archaeology, 2013).

This is disputed and would clearly be confined only to first-century Jewish sects who believed in the resurrection of the dead (such as the Pharisees) and is thus not applicable to all first-century Jews (Fine, Steven. "A Note on Ossuary Burial and the Resurrection of the Dead in First-Century Jerusalem," Journal of Jewish Studies 51, no. 1 (2000): 69-76). However, if it is true, Jesus may have been opposing this specific belief underlying the practice of secondary interment. This position has gained considerable scholarly support in recent years.

Gordon Franz has proposed an interpretation of this statement of Jesus that follows this idea. The entire article is well worth reading and he provides numerous scholarly references to support his argument. Franz concludes,

An amplified (interpretive) rendering of this statement might be: Look, you have already honored your father by giving him a proper burial in the family sepulcher. Now, instead of waiting for the flesh to decompose, this can never atone for sin, go and preach the Kingdom of God and tell of the only true means of atonement, faith alone in Christ. Let the bones of your dead father’s ancestors gather his bones and place them in an ossuary. You follow me! This interpretation allows for Jesus to have upheld the fifth commandment, takes the text at face value, and does justice to the Jewish burial practices of the first century.

Aside from his interpolation of Protestant theology into the mouth of Jesus ("faith alone"), this is a good explanation of the text from this perspective (also note how he deals with the referent of the reflexive possessive pronoun connecting both instances of 'dead' - this stance is not demanded by this approach but is interesting nonetheless).

Option 2: Idiomatic Expression

Jesus may have simply been making a wordplay on the man's statement, idiomatically expressing a sentiment such as:

"You're making excuses. You and I both know this isn't the real issue."

Possible Racist Motivation

The context provides a possible reason why the disciple did not want to follow Jesus at this specific moment in time: Jesus was about to take his disciples across the Sea of Galilee to the Decapolis city of Gadara (Matthew 8:23; 28). This may have been the first trip Jesus made to minister in Gentile territory. The disciple may have hesitated because he did not want to journey to the "unclean pagan Gentiles."

Aramaism/Hebraism Theory

At the same time, numerous commentators have asserted that the phrase "bury my father" is an Aramaism or Hebraism for "allow me to wait until my father dies so that I can bury him," with the implication that his death is imminent. This option also takes into account both internal and external evidence, and is well supported by numerous scholars (e.g. D.A Carson in Matthew, Mark, Luke, vol. 8 of The Expositor's Bible Commentary, vol. 8, ed. F. Gaebelein, 1984, p. 209). However, it is unclear what (if any) strong textual and linguistic evidence exists for this position, as most who espouse it tend to argue it from the text itself without any references to other texts where this usage appears and it is clear that the father/relative is still alive at the time of writing.

Further Wordplays (A Shout-out to the Aramaic Primacists)

One Aramaic primacist argues that the Aramaic words for 'death' and 'town' are similar and thus a wordplay could be involved expressing:

"Let the town bury their own dead."

While I'm aware that various websites and commentaries assert this, I cannot find any valid and reliable scholarly sources which verify this assertion outside of this minority perspective.

At the same time, it is likely that Jesus was speaking Aramaic, and this is thus a plausible wordplay.

Option 3: Spiritual vs. Physical Death

Options three and four primarily differ on who the referent of the first instance of 'dead' is, as both instances are connected by a reflexive possessive pronoun in the Greek text (virtually everyone agrees that the second instance refers to those who are physically dead, so I have only focused on the dispute over the first instance in this answer). Option three asserts that the spiritually dead should bury the physically dead. Some translators go so far as to interpolate the word 'spiritually' into their translation of this passage in order to express this interpretation:

But Jesus told him, "Follow me now. Let the spiritually dead bury their own dead" (Matthew 8:22, NLT, emphasis mine; a footnote indicates that the Greek text does not contain this additional word).

Aside from being a poor translation practice (inserting this word moves beyond translation into the realm of interpretation), the NLT forces option three onto readers (and aside from happening to see the footnote, the reader may not even be aware of alternative interpretations).

This option does not sufficiently deal with the internal evidence (why did the disciple ask for time? It also minimizes the importance of the adverb's primary position in the clause). This option also tends to read later theological perspectives into the text that likely were not intended by Matthew (or Luke for that matter, in his parallel account). However, when combined with option one (rather than taken at face value without the historical context) this becomes a more plausible interpretation.

Option 4: Literal Interpretation

The literal interpretation of Jesus' words is just that: Jesus actually wanted his disciple to disregard his father's burial. This option could be also be combined with some of the other interpretive options.

If combined with (an)other option(s), then each of these combinations would have to be evaluated in light of the strengths of each original option. However, if taken in the literal extreme without combining it with any of the other options, this interpretation shares many of the weaknesses of option three. In addition, this option asserts that Jesus would be commanding this disciple to disobey God's law to honor his parents.

"In Jesus' culture the obligation to bury one's father took precedence even over saying the Shema" (N.T. Wright, The Challenge of Jesus: Rediscovering Who Jesus Was & Is, 1999, p. 62).

The main difference of this approach from option three is that it takes the reflexive possessive pronoun to mean that the physically dead should bury the physically dead. In other words, let the bones of the dead that are already in the tomb bury the dead body recently placed in the tomb.

This option could be combined with option one and would have the following meaning: The phrase doesn't make sense, but that is actually the point. Jesus is offering eternal life, yet the disciple would turn to a secondary interment practice to help purify the soul of the deceased so he may live. Jesus would be challenging this notion and thus asserting, if they're alive because of your practice, then let them (the dead relatives) bury your father. No, this is futile. You must follow me for real everlasting life.


There are a variety of plausible approaches to the interpretation of this text. The categories are not all mutually exclusive.


The spiritually dead are always on hand to bury the physically dead, if one’s real duty is with Jesus. (Robertson, Word Pictures in the NT at Matt. 8:22.)

Jesus [encouraged] the disciple to let the dead bury the dead. Apparently He meant, let the spiritually dead (i.e., those who have no interest in following Jesus) bury the physically dead. There are many worthy activities in life that a true disciple of Jesus must forgo because he or she has a higher calling and higher demands on him or her. Forgoing these activities may bring criticism on the disciple from the spiritually insensitive, but that is part of the price of discipleship (cf. Matt. 7:13-27). Jesus called for commitment to Himself without reservation. (Constable, Expository Notes, 2012, ibid.)


Jeremiah predicts 4 times that in the day of the LORD God will judge Israel. He will "fight against them" and they shall "die of grievous deaths" AND "they shall not be gathered, nor be buried; they shall be for dung upon the face of the earth". They shall not be lamented:

[Jer 8:2 KJV] (2) And they shall spread them before the sun, and the moon, and all the host of heaven, whom they have loved, and whom they have served, and after whom they have walked, and whom they have sought, and whom they have worshipped: they shall not be gathered, nor be buried; they shall be for dung upon the face of the earth.

[Jer 16:4, 6 KJV] (4) They shall die of grievous deaths; they shall not be lamented; neither shall they be buried; but they shall be as dung upon the face of the earth: and they shall be consumed by the sword, and by famine; and their carcases shall be meat for the fowls of heaven, and for the beasts of the earth. ... (6) Both the great and the small shall die in this land: they shall not be buried, neither shall men lament for them, nor cut themselves, nor make themselves bald for them:

[Jer 25:33 KJV] (33) And the slain of the LORD shall be at that day from one end of the earth even unto the other end of the earth: they shall not be lamented, neither gathered, nor buried; they shall be dung upon the ground.

Because [the leadership of] apostate Israel had rejected and killed the Messiah, the Messiah would have no pity upon them. He would not mourn when the names of sinners are forever erased. God counts it a righteous thing:

[2Th 1:3-10 ESV] (3) We ought always to give thanks to God for you, brothers, as is right, because your faith is growing abundantly, and the love of every one of you for one another is increasing. (4) Therefore we ourselves boast about you in the churches of God for your steadfastness and faith in all your persecutions and in the afflictions that you are enduring. (5) This is evidence of the righteous judgment of God, that you may be considered worthy of the kingdom of God, for which you are also suffering-- (6) since indeed God considers it just to repay with affliction those who afflict you, (7) and to grant relief to you who are afflicted as well as to us, when the Lord Jesus is revealed from heaven with his mighty angels (8) in flaming fire, inflicting vengeance on those who do not know God and on those who do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus. (9) They will suffer the punishment of eternal destruction, away from the presence of the Lord and from the glory of his might, (10) when he comes on that day to be glorified in his saints, and to be marveled at among all who have believed, because our testimony to you was believed.

However, the doomed wicked mourn over the doomed wicked:

[Rev 18:9 KJV] (9) And the kings of the earth, who have committed fornication and lived deliciously with her, shall bewail her, and lament for her, when they shall see the smoke of her burning,

[Rev 18:20 ESV] (20) Rejoice over her, O heaven, and you saints and apostles and prophets, for God has given judgment for you against her!"


Much of Jesus' mission was to put an end to religious practices that caused financial hardship. The disciple could not leave home because he had to work to get enough money for the ossuary. Jesus would therefore say to modern poverty stricken communities: do not put up expensive gravestones, let the dead do it if that makes them happy. You get on with your life without the additional financial burden.

  • ,your answer to my question is appreciated.although i may not agree with you,i do find a certain element of truth in your answer and feel it deserves an up-vote.
    – Bagpipes
    Commented Oct 2, 2013 at 8:40
  • No worries. I don't mind going down. At times it is a compliment. Commented Oct 3, 2013 at 16:15

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