Matthew 5:28 has Jesus saying

"but I -- I say to you, that every one who is looking on a woman to desire her, did already commit adultery with her in his heart." (Young's literal)

Although Jesus' statement is aimed at adultery, and so arguably strictly-speaking only applies to a man 'looking on to desire' a woman who isn't his wife, is this statement an instance of a more general principle of Jesus' that involves 'looking on a woman to desire her' in itself being wrong?

  • Sorry, but I don't see how this is substantially different from your first question.
    – curiousdannii
    Mar 9 at 22:04
  • @curiousdannii The first question was whether a man 'looking to desire' his own wife would be committing adultery. This question is whether 'looking to desire' one's own wife is immoral. The second question is because the answer to the first seems to be "No, it's not adultery because they are married, and adultery is only between unmarried people." Fair enough. But what I'm trying to get at is whether Jesus is saying that sort of 'looking' is immoral, regardless. Mar 9 at 22:14
  • @AnthonyBurg But Jesus's point is that sexual immorality is breaking the law of adultery.
    – curiousdannii
    Mar 9 at 22:21
  • @curiousdannii Don't follow what you're saying here. Adultery is the only kind of sexual immorality? Mar 9 at 22:23
  • @AnthonyBurg No, I'm just saying that Jesus's point in verse 28 is that by committing any sexual immorality you have committed adultery.
    – curiousdannii
    Mar 9 at 22:25

Job 31 New International Version

1“I made a covenant with my eyes
not to look lustfully at a young woman. ...
9“If my heart has been enticed by a woman,
or if I have lurked at my neighbor’s door,
10then may my wife grind another man’s grain,
and may other men sleep with her.
11For that would have been wicked,
a sin to be judged.
12It is a fire that burns to Destruction;
it would have uprooted my harvest.

According to Job, looking lustfully at an unmarried woman is a sin. Jesus would agree.

Is it immoral for a husband to look lustfully at his own wife?

Yes, but that would depend on the reception of the wife.

1 Corinthians 10:23

"I have the right to do anything," you say--but not everything is beneficial. "I have the right to do anything"--but not everything is constructive.

If it offends the wife, I'd advise the husband to talk to his wife about it.

  • I added to my answer.
    – Tony Chan
    Mar 9 at 18:31
  • Good question. I modified.
    – Tony Chan
    Mar 9 at 18:45

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