David & Jonathan's relationship as friends has usually been viewed as the good friendship which is suggested when you reading the following verses:
1 Samuel 18:1 (NASB)
"....the soul of Jonathan was knit to the soul of David, and Jonathan loved him as himself...."
1 Samuel 18:3-4 (NASB)
3 Then Jonathan made a covenant with David because he loved him as himself. 4 Jonathan stripped himself of the robe that was on him and gave it to David, with his armor, including his sword and his bow and his belt.
1 Samuel 20:41-42 (NASB)
41 When the lad was gone, David rose from the south side and fell on his face to the ground, and bowed three times. And they kissed each other and wept together, but David wept the more. 42 Jonathan said to David, “Go in safety, inasmuch as we have sworn to each other in the name of the Lord, saying, ‘The Lord will be between me and you, and between my [q]descendants and your [r]descendants forever.’”
Side Note: Some people erroneously go on to suggest a homosexual, same-sex relationship, etc., because they are unusually too close for male friends which is Not really the subject of this posting.
However, Pastor Robert Morris of Gateway Church ( https://gatewaypeople.com/ ) based out of the Dallas/Fort Worth Metroplex, Texas, USA seems to view the David & Jonathan relationship in a more Negative Light by explaining that Jonathan was manipulating David for selfish reasons ( please click on youtube link above to see sermon).
In the aforementioned Sermon, Pastor Morris says that King Saul hunts for David when David was running as a fugitive, and King Saul finds David 5 times, and 3 of those times, only one guy knew where David was located, and that was Jonathan which suggests/hints that Jonathan may have ratted out on David to King Saul.
Pastor Morris claims that Jonathan sort of manipulates David by flattery by saying the following:
1 Samuel 23:17 (NASB)
Thus he said to him, "Do not be afraid, because the hand of Saul my father will not find you, and you will be king over Israel and I will be next to you; and Saul my father knows that also."
Also, he says that the relationship was really one-sided because Jonathan was trying to extract benefits like making David promise that he would Not harm Jonathan's lineal descendants:
1 Samuel 20:14-17 (NASB)
14 If I am still alive, will you not show me the lovingkindness of the Lord, that I may not die? 15 You shall not cut off your lovingkindness from my house forever, not even when the Lord cuts off every one of the enemies of David from the face of the earth.” 16 So Jonathan made a covenant with the house of David, saying, “May the Lord require it at the hands of David’s enemies.” 17 Jonathan made David vow again because of his love for him, because he loved him as he loved his own life.
Pastor Morris claims that Psalm 41 has references to David feeling that Jonathan betrayed him:
Psalm 41:9 (NASB)
Even my close friend in whom I trusted, Who ate my bread, Has lifted up his heel against me.
I personally also came across the following verses that might suggest that David viewed Jonathan as being a turncoat:
Psalm 55:12-14 (NASB)
12 For it is not an enemy who reproaches me, Then I could bear it; Nor is it one who hates me who has exalted himself against me, Then I could hide myself from him. 13 But it is you, a man [a]my equal, My companion and my [b]familiar friend; 14 We who had sweet [c]fellowship together Walked in the house of God in the throng.
Therefore, is the view that Jonathan was a manipulative person when it comes to his relationship with David a valid perspective? Are some other pastors/Christian bloggers/Christian authors mistaken when they uphold David's relationship with Jonathan as being a good & strong relationship?