Judges 21:19-25 New American Standard Bible (NASB)
19 So they said, “Behold, there is a feast of the Lord from year to year in Shiloh, which is on the north side of Bethel, on the east side of the highway that goes up from Bethel to Shechem, and on the south side of Lebonah.” 20 And they commanded the sons of Benjamin, saying, “Go and lie in wait in the vineyards, 21 and watch; and behold, if the daughters of Shiloh come out to [h]take part in the dances, then you shall come out of the vineyards and each of you shall catch his wife from the daughters of Shiloh, and go to the land of Benjamin. 22 It shall come about, when their fathers or their brothers come to complain to us, that we shall say to them, ‘Give them to us voluntarily, because we did not take for each man of Benjamin [i]a wife in battle, [j]nor did you give them to them, else you would now be guilty.’” 23 The sons of Benjamin did so, and took wives according to their number from those who danced, whom they carried away. And they went and returned to their inheritance and rebuilt the cities and lived in them. 24 The sons of Israel departed from there at that time, every man to his tribe and family, and each one of them went out from there to his inheritance. 25 In those days there was no king in Israel; everyone did what was right in his own eyes.

Since the men of the Benjamin tribe did Not have any women to look for wives, they were encouraged to go grab wives from Shiloh. To me it seems like mistreatment of women. I'm trying to understand the cultural social norms in this particular scenario. I'm trying to understand the aforementioned scenario, therefore, could someone please explain it to me? Is there Not enough time for courtship?

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    Fully agreed. This does not make it acceptable - numerous incidents in the second half of Judges are recorded that can only described as ghastly!! – Mac's Musings Feb 28 at 5:39
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    "mistreatment/abuse" are culturally relative terms. In this case the key to "cultural social norms" is the last verse: "In those days ... everyone did what was right in his own eyes". These "abusers" were simply doing what they thought was the right thing. – Ray Butterworth Feb 28 at 13:10
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    This is a good question has several good answers by critical scholars such as Yair Zakovitch. It is in fact a basic question about all of the stories in Judges and the purpose of the book. Please re-open so that I can provide one of those answers. – Abu Munir Ibn Ibrahim Mar 2 at 17:58
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    @AbuMunirIbnIbrahim the question cannot be answered through hermeneutical methods and it will mostly generate opinion-based and unscholarly answers. That is the reason it was closed. Though you may be able to provide some insight (though I doubt they will be hermeneutically based) most of the answers will be opinionated and without any solid basis or sources/evidence to back them up. It is best to leave this question closed. – Bach Mar 3 at 1:20
  • Is there not enough time for courtship? - What exactly do you think that the purpose of the women gathered there was ? – Lucian Mar 11 at 0:57