NO. God does not condone rape.
I would vote to close this question as it is commonly raised by many who hate God, and raise false claims without knowledge, seeking to cause others to stumble.
The question has been asked and answered on the Christianity site: here
However, there are some points to be considered.
None of us are capable of, nor should ever attempt to pass judgment upon our heavenly Father, our Creator. We are the created, not the creator; and we are not able to know all that He knows (Isa. 55:8-9). We do not know the hearts of men as He knows them (1 Kings 8:39). We do not see the secret things that He sees (Dan. 2:22). We do not have His foreknowledge, nor His omniscience.
"Surely your turning of things upside down shall be esteemed as the potter's clay: for shall the work say of him that made it, He made me not? or shall the thing framed say of him that framed it, He had no understanding?" (KJV)
We have limited capability to judge rightly when we see someone else's overt actions that cause harm to others, but He has full capability and His judgments are true and righteous.
"The sum of Thy word [is] truth, And to the age [is] every judgment of Thy righteousness!" (YLT)
" Therefore hearken unto me ye men of understanding: far be it from God, that he should do wickedness; and from the Almighty, that he should commit iniquity.
11 For the work of a man shall he render unto him, and cause every man to find according to his ways.
12 Yea, surely God will not do wickedly, neither will the Almighty pervert judgment.
13 Who hath given him a charge over the earth? or who hath disposed the whole world?
14 If he set his heart upon man, if he gather unto himself his spirit and his breath;
15 All flesh shall perish together, and man shall turn again unto dust."
He created all things, and breathed life into each one of us (Job 33:4). He provides the very air that we breathe each and every moment, without which we would die. And, some dare question His judgment?
"21 For his eyes are upon the ways of man, and he seeth all his goings. 22 There is no darkness, nor shadow of death, where the workers of iniquity may hide themselves."
The grasshopper eats of the grass he did not plant, and drinks of the dew he did not gather, and then has the audacity to look up to heaven and say, "Prove to me that you exist." The created does not have that right.
"2 Who is this that darkeneth counsel by words without knowledge?
3 Gird up now thy loins like a man; for I will demand of thee, and answer thou me.
4 Where wast thou when I laid the foundations of the earth? declare, if thou hast understanding." (KJV)
The Lord was laying down ground rules in Deuteronomy for the tribes of Israel to take over the lands of Canaan. The land had been promised to Abraham's descendants, and was filled with wicked people. The gift to the Israelites was a simultaneous judgment against the idolatrous people who were sacrificing their babies on the burning arms of their idol Moloch. They were guilty of many atrocities because of their idolatrous societies. He listed these nations that were to be completely annihilated.
"`Only, of the cities of these peoples which Jehovah thy God is giving to thee [for] an inheritance, thou dost not keep alive any breathing;
17 for thou dost certainly devote the Hittite, and the Amorite, the Canaanite, and the Perizzite, the Hivite, and the Jebusite, as Jehovah thy God hath commanded thee,
18 so that they teach you not to do according to all their abominations which they have done to their gods, and ye have sinned against Jehovah your God." (YLT)
Whereas, God allowed different methods for the people of other cities and areas farther away, to first sue for peace.
"When thou drawest near unto a city to fight against it, then thou hast called unto it for Peace,
11 and it hath been, if Peace it answer thee, and hath opened to thee, then it hath come to pass -- all the people who are found in it are to thee for tributaries, and have served thee.
12 `And if it doth not make peace with thee, and hath made with thee war, then thou hast laid siege against it,
13 and Jehovah thy God hath given it into thy hand, and thou hast smitten every male of it by the mouth of the sword.
14 Only, the women, and the infants, and the cattle, and all that is in the city, all its spoil, thou dost seize for thyself, and thou hast eaten the spoil of thine enemies which Jehovah thy God hath given to thee.
15 So thou dost do to all the cities which are very far off from thee, which are not of the cities of these nations." (YLT)
God recognized that captives of war could be ill treated, and was laying down rules for the women that would be taken into the house of the soldier.
Jamieson-Fausset-Brown Commentary on The Treatment of a Captive Taken to Wife:
"10-14. When thou goest to war … and seest among the captives a beautiful woman … that thou wouldest have her to thy wife—According to the war customs of all ancient nations, a female captive became the slave of the victor, who had the sole and unchallengeable control of right to her person. Moses improved this existing usage by special regulations on the subject. He enacted that, in the event that her master was captivated by her beauty and contemplated a marriage with her, a month should be allowed to elapse, during which her perturbed feelings might be calmed, her mind reconciled to her altered condition, and she might bewail the loss of her parents, now to her the same as dead. A month was the usual period of mourning with the Jews, and the circumstances mentioned here were the signs of grief—the shaving of the head, the allowing the nails to grow uncut, the putting off her gorgeous dress in which ladies, on the eve of being captured, arrayed themselves to be the more attractive to their captors. The delay was full of humanity and kindness to the female slave, as well as a prudential measure to try the strength of her master's affections. If his love should afterwards cool and he become indifferent to her person, he was not to lord it over her, neither to sell her in the slave market, nor retain her in a subordinate condition in his house; but she was to be free to go where her inclinations led her." Source: here
It was not that God allowed women to be raped, or that He condoned it. He was setting conditions to mitigate man's blood lust of war.
Nor does the fact that God recorded the sins of man mean that He condones those sins. The Bible is the record of God's words and judgments, as well as the words and actions of men, and of Satan. We are to know which is which. We are expected to be sensible enough to know that a man's actions are not infallible, and a man's words are not inerrant. It is mankind that is guilty of sin, not God.
Excerpt from God Did Not Condone Rape, by Kyle Butt -
"It is important to understand that God has never condoned any type of sexual activity outside of a lawful marriage. The only way that an Israelite would be morally justified in having sexual intercourse with a female captive was if he made her his wife, granting to her the rights and privileges due to a wife. Notice that the Israelite male could not “go in to her” (a euphemism for sexual intercourse) until she had observed a period of mourning and cleansing, and he could only “go in to her” with the intent of being her husband." Source: here
Look carefully at the colon between verses 13 and 14 of Deu. c. 21,
"and hast seen in the captivity a woman of fair form, and hast delighted in her, and hast taken to thee for a wife,
12 then thou hast brought her in unto the midst of thy household, and she hath shaved her head, and prepared her nails,
13 and turned aside the raiment of her captivity from off her, and hath dwelt in thy house, and bewailed her father and her mother a month of days, and afterwards thou dost go in unto her and hast married her, and she hath been to thee for a wife:
14 `And it hath been -- if thou hast not delighted in her, that thou hast sent her away at her desire, and thou dost not at all sell her for money; thou dost not tyrannize over her, because that thou hast humbled her." (YLT)
Do not make the assumption that verse 14 occurs after the man went in to her in verse 13... the phrase which means having had intercourse with her. The colon separates the two, and creates an either / or situation.
If, after the woman had time to mourn, and to learn of the laws of God, and then desired to be sent away, then God gave instructions on what the man was to do, because she had been kept in his house for that month, and that would humble her before other's conjecture.
It does not mean that the Israeli soldier raped her, for he was under God's law. That would have been very hypocritical when he was attempting to teach her of God's law.
The act of humbling a woman by pagan societies was rape (Gen 34:2), and was recognized as sinful behavior deserving of the death penalty even for the Israelites (Deu. 22:24).
The very act of bringing an idolatrous woman into his house as a possible wife was against the previous commands, as committing idolatry was a death sentence. (See Deu. 13:6-11, Deu. 17:2-5.) The man who considered taking a captive to wife would have known that if he had intercourse with her, he would be considered under God's law to have married her, as sexual intercourse outside of marriage was adultery and fornication, which was condemned in Ex. chap 20 by the seventh commandment. Taking that step would have made him her husband, and he would have then been responsible for her.
Excerpt from Benson Commentary on Deu. 21:14,
"“The wisdom and humanity of Moses,” says Philo, “are very remarkable in this law, whereby the soldiers are forbidden to indulge a hasty and brutal passion, are kept a whole month in abstinence, and thereby have an opportunity given them of knowing the temper and disposition of the woman, for whose misfortune in captivity a compassionate provision is made, by allowing her so long a time of separation and mourning.” Source: here
The tribes of Israel were under the commandments of God, and were to be an example to all the other nations (Ex. 19:6). God did not spare them when they fell into idolatry, but brought other nations against them and removed them into captivity (Deu. 28:36-37; Jer. 22:6-9; Ezek. chap. 22, etc.).
On the issue of slavery, I recommend reading The Bible and Slavery, by Kyle Butt at ApologeticsPress.com here
"The fool hath said in his heart, There is no God...."
Cherry picking the Bible to find fault with God is a dangerous occupation. Anyone who wishes to spend their time arguing with God, had better be prepared to lose when they stand before Him.
All bold emphasis is mine.